Too often as moms we find ourselves in a place where we have said “yes” too many times. We desperately want to make sure we are doing all we can for our children and families. We frequently find ourselves getting involved in every opportunity that comes our way because we know it is another experience that will bless, teach, expose or encourage our children.

But there is a huge issue with saying yes to everything: It can often dilute the quality of our lives and send the wrong message to our children. When we allow busyness to overtake our schedule because we are trying to do it all, we will miss out on “being “with our children because we are so busy “doing” for them.

When a mom knows how to say no in a healthy and appropriate way, she is doing more than just placing limits on the daily calendar. She is teaching her children how to set boundaries, which in turn models for them an example of healthy living. She is creating space in her family’s environment which says we do not have to fill up all our time. Knowing how to be still is a lost art in today’s world and most often it is because there are few quiet times within the daily existence of the family.

Moms need to buy time when someone asks them to do or participate in an activity. Make a practice of saying, “I will get back to you on that.” It allows us to step back, reflect and pray as to whether or not it is the right thing for your family at this time. If you know it isn’t right, then graciously thank the person for the invitation or opportunity and proceed to say, “No thank you. It won’t work for our family right now, but keep us in mind for the future.” Tell your friends you are working on this area of your life so you can have some accountability and support.

Saying no can be a gift to you and your family. It will model for them how to prioritize in life as well as demonstrate to them the value of quality versus quantity. Saying no doesn’t have to mean deprivation, punishment, and selfishness. It can mean freedom, time, and peacefulness in the place we call home. It will also greatly contribute to the well-being of the mom who oversees the home, which we all know, means everything.

Be well and wise,
Catherine